How to regulate and control your emotions

Nowadays, people are under more and more pressure in life, and everyone's temper is getting worse and worse. There are various ways to deal with things. So what should we do when our emotions are out of control? In fact, you always need to have a good attitude to deal with things at any time, so you need to adjust your mood. Now let’s talk about how to adjust and control your emotions.

Transfer Method

When your anger is rising rapidly, you should consciously change the subject or do something else to distract yourself, which can effectively relieve your emotions. When your anger is still lingering, you might as well relax yourself by doing meaningful and relaxing activities such as watching movies, listening to music, playing chess, taking a walk, etc., to relax your tense emotions immediately.

Catharsis

People will inevitably have various negative emotions in life. If they do not take appropriate methods to vent and regulate them, it will have a very adverse effect on the body and mind. Therefore, if you have unhappy things and grievances in your heart, don't keep them in your heart, but pour them out to your close friends or relatives or just have a good cry. This kind of venting can quickly release the depression accumulated in the heart, which is very beneficial to a person's physical and mental development. Of course, the object, place, occasion and method of venting should be appropriate to avoid hurting others.

Self-soothing

When a person pursues a goal but fails to achieve it, in order to reduce his inner disappointment, he often looks for a plausible reason for the failure and seeks inner comfort, just like the fairy tale about the fox saying the grapes are sour because he cannot eat them. Therefore, it is often also called the "sour grapes mentality."

Language moderation law

Once you are emotionally excited, you can silently recite or whisper to yourself phrases such as "stay calm", "don't get angry", "pay attention to your image and influence", and try your best to suppress your emotions; you can also write banners with words such as "control your anger" and "stay calm" in advance and place them on your desk or hang them on the wall according to your weaknesses.

Autosuggestion

Anticipating that you will likely experience a greater degree of nervousness in certain specific situations, find in advance some strong reasons why you should not experience such emotions.

Happy Memory Method

Recall past experiences that made you happy and proud, or the pleasant and satisfying experiences you had when you were successful. In particular, you should recall past pleasant experiences that are related to the current unpleasant experience.

The above are ways to regulate and control your emotions. When many problems arise and we are unable to understand or mediate them at once, we should have a stable mentality and adjust our mindset first. Don't make choices on impulse. Sometimes impulsive choices will make people regretful, so it is very important to regulate our emotions.