What to do if you can't help beating and scolding your child

Educating children can be said to be a very complicated matter. As parents, we must learn a little psychology and know some correct methods to educate children. Because children are sometimes really annoying, some parents can't help but beat and scold their children. When that happens, we must learn to relieve our emotions. As parents, we must not let it happen again and communicate with our children in a timely manner to minimize the impact.

What to do if you can't help but spank and scold your child

1. Learn to reconcile with your emotions

If you want to control your temper, you must first face it, reconcile with your emotions, and admit that everyone will lose their temper, rather than suppressing it blindly - where there is oppression, there is resistance; the frustration accumulated in your heart, if not guided, will always find an outlet to burst out. So acknowledging its existence is the first step to stabilizing your emotions.

2. Be honest about your emotions and give yourself time and space

When you are feeling excited and having trouble suppressing yourself, tell your child honestly that you are in a bad mood and let him/her play for a while.

Let children understand that parents are not gods, and that parents can also be sad, depressed, and cry, and there is nothing shameful in this. Let children know the ups and downs of life earlier, so that they can understand the various flavors of life earlier and be more likely to have empathy.

3. After you stabilize your emotions, take the initiative to get close to your child

This is very important, otherwise children will not be able to judge whether their parents’ unhappiness has something to do with them. If the quarrel between two people has something to do with the child, tell him to correct his behavior in an appropriate way; if the bad mood has nothing to do with the child, be sure to tell them clearly: the quarrel between mom and dad has nothing to do with them.

If a child always lives in anxiety, he will be timid and cautious when he grows up, and will depend on other people's opinions before doing anything.

4. If you lose your temper with your child for no reason, please apologize

Although children are young, they also long to be treated equally. When they make mistakes, we often ask them to apologize, and when we make mistakes, we should also apologize to our children generously.

Children are particularly easy to forgive adults' mistakes. The adults' calmness and responsibility also set a good example for children to dare to do and take responsibility.