How to break up an extramarital affair correctly?

With the rapid development of society, people's material living conditions are getting better and better. At the same time, people's hearts have become more impetuous. In addition, there are many temptations in life. Against this background, there are more and more extramarital affairs between couples. Once one party has an extramarital affair, it is a huge blow to the other party. Most people will choose to break up when encountering this situation, but the breakup of couples and the breakup of lovers are completely different. If the other party has an extramarital affair, how should you break up correctly?

How to break up an extramarital affair correctly?

1. Identify problems and make preparations.

Some people are very alert and can realize in time the devastating harm that extramarital affairs bring to family life. But if you want to extricate yourself from it, you will feel a certain threat. After all, extramarital affairs are shameful, and if they get out, it will have a bad impact on your wife, children, and yourself.

At this time, you need to make a plan on how to break up with your extramarital affair partner and use the correct methods to prevent unpredictable changes from happening in the process. You can first use your imagination to list all the negative situations you can think of, and then analyze them slowly.

Take different preparation measures according to different situations and prepare several plans and contingency plans so that you can come up with countermeasures immediately once drastic changes occur. Prepare for the worst in advance to minimize negative impact and damage.

2. Let the partner of the affair slowly "hate" you and encourage him/her to leave on his/her own initiative.

An extramarital affair, no matter what the reason, is a landmine that can explode at any time if not handled properly. It is often seen that the partner of an extramarital affair makes a big scene at work or at home, or uses some means as a threat to push the person involved step by step into the abyss, unable to get out of the quagmire.

In order to ease possible fierce conflicts in the future, you need to infiltrate slowly, make the other party no longer value you, make the other party gradually start to hate you, and finally break up. After a period of interaction, both parties have come to know each other's strengths and weaknesses, so the measures they take can gradually weaken their own advantages and magnify their unbearable disadvantages.

In short, we should do what the other party hates. During the operation, we should adhere to the principle of "moisturizing things silently". If you do it too obviously and intensely, the other party will immediately know your purpose. Everything must be done quietly, carelessly, and secretly.

The specific aspects of the other person that you dislike may be their habits, way of speaking, concepts, etc. It is enough to make the other person feel that you have changed, that you are no longer as perfect as they imagined, and that you have so many shortcomings.

3. Be considerate of the other person's face and avoid taking extreme actions or making extreme remarks.

Everything you do will inevitably create resistance. Generally speaking, the more eager people are to complete a task, the more likely they are to experience negative emotions such as impatience and irritability. First of all, you need to calm down. You must calm down to the bottom. Every time you speak and take action, you can slow down a little and give yourself some buffer time.

Secondly, we must take into account the other party's self-esteem. In this society, people may feel very uncomfortable inside, but they have to save face. Therefore, we must continue to respect the other party and not let the other party feel threatened.

The purpose of doing this is to avoid angering the other party, thereby preventing the other party from making the affair public and causing a devastating blow to oneself. It is in your own interest not to make things worse. Giving face to others is equivalent to leaving room for yourself.

4. Make use of others to compare yourself with them and withdraw secretly.

As the saying goes, "There is always someone better than you, and there is always a mountain higher than the other." I believe that in the social situations I come into contact with, there are many people who are better, richer, and more successful than me. So why not use these factors to get your extramarital affair partner to choose new prey.

Social occasions, preferably some public ones, should not rely on your own circle of friends. You can add more visits to relatively "high-end" places so that the other person can see what kind of life it is like to have people who are stronger than themselves.

Human nature is to seek benefits and avoid harm. We can take advantage of this and inject this high-end consciousness into the other party's mind. Let the other person listen, watch and feel these environments at the same time, which will increase the strong contrast between the other person and his current life. You can consciously expose some of your "clumsiness", make a fool of yourself in such occasions, embarrass yourself in front of the other person, and make the contrast deeper.

Generally speaking, the person you have an extramarital affair with doesn't have any religious beliefs. After that, there is a high probability that the other party will pursue other more high-end people, and you will easily be "abandoned". However, whether others can accept it is another matter.