How to correctly guide children's premature love

Especially after puberty, boys and girls will develop a certain affection for each other and be attracted to each other, which will lead to early love among children. During this period, it is an important period of learning, which will delay learning and affect grades. Some parents and friends are frightened of this, but they are also worried that excessive obstruction will lead to more rebellious situations. So, how can children fall in love correctly? What about the vagina? Next I will explain it in detail for my friends.

First, parents should have a correct understanding of early love and should not be afraid of it.

Puppy love, as the name suggests, means falling in love too early. In fact, every parent has gone through adolescence, so it is not difficult to understand that it is normal for children of this age to develop admiration for the opposite sex. We might as well ask ourselves, did we have a secret crush on someone when we were in junior high school or high school?

In fact, children in adolescence will pay attention to the opposite sex due to sexual awakening. Moreover, this attention will continue to grow, to the point where it is natural to develop feelings of love for a particular member of the opposite sex. The famous poet Goethe once said: "What handsome young man is not good at falling in love, and what young girl is not good at having spring in her heart?" It is common for children at this stage to like a specific member of the opposite sex, but parents should help and guide their children to keep this liking at the level of friendship.

In Western society, it is considered normal for teenagers to fall in love, kiss and hug. Generally speaking, Western society views early love more as a natural development process of students' emotional growth, and advocates satisfying it in education and teaching, and cultivating and developing students' emotional communication skills accordingly to adapt to social needs.

As parents and teachers, we must realize that children's premature love is a manifestation of their growth and maturity, and it is an inevitable trend of physical development. At this age, it is much more normal to have someone you like than not to have someone you like. Giving affirmation to children's growth is the basis for dealing with the problem of children's premature love.

Second, carefully analyze the reasons why children fall in love early

Psychologists believe that the main reason for children's early love is that the emotions provided by the family cannot meet the children's growth needs. Some parents are busy with their careers every day. Even at home, they play games on their mobile phones every day. They have very few effective communications with their children, so that the children cannot confide in their parents when they have something on their minds. If children cannot get emotional satisfaction within the family, they will seek compensation outside the family, which makes premature love more likely to occur.

Early love among adolescent children is related to their relationship with their parents. Generally speaking, if a girl has a good relationship with her father, it is not easy for her to pay attention to boys; if a boy has a good relationship with his mother, it is not easy for him to establish an intimate relationship with a girl. Generally speaking, children from single-parent families, families with insufficient family communication, and poor family relationships are more likely to fall in love early.

Third, give correct guidance, and do not forcibly separate them.

Around us, most parents react very strongly when they hear that their children are in love early. The whole family must gather together to hold a criticism meeting for the child. Some parents will say a lot of words that hurt children's self-esteem, such as "Why are you so ignorant? Are we saving money just to support you to have an early love affair?" "Why are you so disappointing?" "You really bring shame to your parents" and so on. Some parents will even follow their children all day, watch them, and force them to stop playing.

In fact, such parents can think about this calmly. The more domineering you are, the more your children will not listen to you. Sometimes it will even backfire. For such things, children will generally move their premature love from the surface to underground. Children spend most of their time fighting with their parents, which will affect their studies.

Generally, children who fall in love early are in the rebellious adolescence. The more you suppress them, the more they will want to do it, so parents must guide them correctly. I still remember when I was in high school, my homeroom teacher was particularly afraid that my classmates would fall in love, so the girls were seated in the front row and the boys in the back row. Whenever the boys and girls talked, the homeroom teacher would become nervous, and my classmates have always been resistant to this kind of mentality. At one point, the teacher's mother was sick and she took a week off. When she came back, there were four pairs in my class. Maybe this is the rebelliousness of adolescence. Parents should reflect on whether you have ever made household registration-style inquiries when you heard your children talking on the phone with friends of the opposite sex.

Parents should trust their children, talk to them as friends and on an equal footing, and help them deal with emotional fluctuations. This can help cultivate children's ability to consciously restrain their actions and lives.

Fourth, guide children step by step to help them deal with their teenage emotions

There was a parent who, after knowing that his child was in a premature love relationship, invited the child to a cafe to have coffee together. The parent said to the child with a smile, "Baby, is there any good news that you haven't told mom and dad? Mom and dad also want to share the joy of your growth with you." First, they provide children with a relaxing start to communication. Only when children can truly open their hearts and communicate with their parents can we better understand their hearts.

There was also a couple of parents who found out that their children were in a premature relationship and were afraid that it would affect their studies, so they asked both children to study at home together. Later, both children were admitted to good universities. This example is not to say that parents should support their children's early love, but just to tell parents that they can try a better way to deal with it.

Fifth, increase children’s awareness of protection and sense of responsibility

Personally, I think that when you find out that a child is in love prematurely, the most important thing is to teach the child what he should and should not do. Especially for girls, you must teach her how to protect herself. For boys, you must teach him to take responsibility for all his actions.

As society develops, premature love is a problem that almost every parent will encounter during their children's adolescence. Parents should do their homework in advance, give their children a warm and harmonious home, and not let their children fall in love due to the lack of love in the family. If the child really falls in love early, parents should face it calmly, guide the child correctly, and turn it into motivation for learning.