What to do if your child has no opinion?

If parents find that their children have no opinions, they must provide them with good education step by step. After all, if children have no opinions, there will always be things that worry them in their future social life. Therefore, they should gradually cultivate their children to have opinions and responsibilities, let them be able to express their own ideas, and teach them to say no. This is very important. Let's take a look at the content in this regard.

What to do if your child has no opinion

1. Give your child time to “hesitate”

Many times, children cannot make decisions not because they have no ideas, but because they think too much, which leads to indecision. When children are making choices, if parents keep urging them impatiently or simply make decisions for them, it can easily discourage children's enthusiasm for autonomy. Give children enough time to consider, and believe that they can make decisions. Parents' confidence will be transformed into children's self-confidence.

2. Let children express their own ideas

Many times when parents ask their children to do things, they use an imperative tone; many times they do not give their children the opportunity to express their opinions. Every child has his or her own opinions. Parents should let their children express their ideas more often, seek their opinions, and ask them whether they want to eat or play, etc.

3. Teach your children to say “no”

In order to enable children to have their own opinions, it is necessary to break their superstition about authority. For example, you can play the "Say No" game with your child, where parents make mistakes intentionally and let the child point out the mistakes. For example, the parent says: "Tables, chairs, bedside tables, and towel blankets are all things that can be used, they are all furniture." The child says: "No, towel blankets are things that can be used, but they are not furniture." Tell your child that both adults and children can make mistakes. Once children realize this, they will not blindly follow or imitate others.

4. Point out the general direction

If a child appears confused and has no opinion of his own, parents should not help him make decisions. He should still complete his own tasks on his own. If you do everything for him, he will develop a sense of dependence and will be in the habit of hiding behind when encountering problems in the future. Parents can point out the general direction for their children, but as for the details, it depends on their own choices.

Reasons why children have no opinions

The so-called independent opinion usually refers to one's definite views or opinions on things. Whether a child has an independent opinion or not is determined by his nature, but is also greatly influenced by his acquired upbringing. Some children are naturally introverted and easy-going, and are willing to listen to and obey the decisions of others. It’s not that they don’t have their own opinions, but they choose to accept other people’s opinions. As long as their bottom line is not touched, they will feel more comfortable going with the flow and taking advantage of the situation. Of course, the reason why many children in life have no opinions is not because of their personality, but because they have been educated by their parents since childhood: "Be good and be obedient." Their parents help them consider, decide, and prepare everything, so they are used to giving up their right to make their own decisions.