Skills in communicating with people

Human beings are social animals and cannot avoid dealing with others. Learning the skills to communicate with others is an important lesson in life. Only by learning to communicate with others can we become at ease in social life and appear to have high emotional intelligence. To master the skills of communication, let us understand how to master some skills when communicating with others.

Skills in communicating with people

As the saying goes, "A kind word warms you through three winter months, while an evil word hurts you through six months of summer." Respecting the other person is a prerequisite for a successful conversation.

Many people talk casually and think they are good at communication. In fact, they only care about expressing their own opinions without considering the feelings of others. Such communication is not successful communication, but only one-sided interaction. Therefore, good conversation skills must be learned. Here is a brief introduction.

1. "Chatting" is an important part of talking with people. You should learn to chat

Most people who are not good at conversation do not know how to seize the opportunity to talk. Psychologist James once said: "When talking with others, if you can be relaxed, casual, without worries, and say whatever comes to your mind, then the conversation will be quite lively and the atmosphere will be quite active." With the attitude of "it doesn't matter if I don't speak well", it is possible to say interesting and witty words if you speak according to your actual level. So, chatting does not require intelligence, as long as you chat happily.

2. Expose yourself appropriately and start a conversation with yourself to increase the other person's trust in you.

Everyone is most familiar with their own affairs, so the key to talking with others is to make the other person talk about themselves naturally. No one has to go to great lengths to find a special topic, but can just use themselves as the topic. This will make it easier to start a conversation, and people will tend to open their hearts to each other.

3. Master the art of criticism

If you have to criticize someone during a conversation, be sure to do so tactfully. Ming's criticism has the following characteristics:

⑴Don’t criticize in front of others.

⑵ Before criticizing, you should say some kind and appreciative words, and then use transition words such as "but" to introduce the aspect of criticism, that is, use a euphemism.

⑶ Criticize the other person's behavior rather than his or her personality. Criticize others in a consultative tone rather than a commanding one.

⑷ Stick to the facts.

4. Echo the other party's conversation to make the conversation atmosphere relaxed and pleasant

If you can talk about the same opinions as the other person during a conversation, the other person will naturally be interested in you and have a good impression of you. Everyone will regard someone who agrees with their opinions as someone who improves their own value and enhances their self-esteem, and will then express acceptance and closeness. If we must disagree with someone's point of view, we must also find some parts that we can agree with to create conditions for continuing the dialogue. In addition, you should use your brain to have a pleasant conversation. Don't talk about unpleasant and sad things unless you are with a close friend.