Learn the importance of sharing

The Chinese nation has been a humble and friendly nation since ancient times. Since ancient times, there have been many poems about enthusiasm, friendship and mutual assistance. In ancient times, people admired humble gentlemen who were filial and respectful, and loved their parents and brothers. The story of Kong Rong giving away his pears has been passed down from ancient times to the present day. It not only reflects the importance of respecting the elderly and loving the young, but also teaches people to learn to share. Sharing is a virtue and a great love. People who share can love themselves and others better.

The ancients said, "If you want a tree to grow tall, you must strengthen its roots; if you want a river to flow far, you must dredge its source." Before solving the problem of sharing, we need to understand, clarify and analyze the causes so that we can prescribe the right medicine. In this regard, the author has made a careful analysis and summary, and there are mainly three points:

1. Lack of confidence in yourself. Friends who hold this kind of mindset can fully realize the importance and necessity of sharing, and have the original intention and desire to share, but they lack confidence in sharing. They one-sidedly believe that sharing is not an easy thing, and only those big Vs, big names, and successful people are qualified and capable of sharing. As an unknown person and a guinea pig on the Internet, I have very little knowledge in my head and can only listen attentively. If you share your little knowledge, it would be strange if people don't laugh their heads off. Why bring shame upon yourself? ! What they don’t know is that no gold is pure, no one is perfect, everyone has his or her own strengths and weaknesses, and as long as you are willing to explore and show them, everyone has his or her own shining points.

2 Afraid of being surpassed. This phenomenon is very common, especially when the person you are sharing with is in the same industry as you. You are afraid that your years of experience and skills will be learned by others and take away your job. It is like the story of the master and apprentice of the cat and the tiger. You must "keep one trick up your sleeve", otherwise you will die miserably. Some people would rather keep their flaws than show them to others. This is a typical bondage of old feudal ideas, which shows how profound the feudal malpractices of thousands of years have affected our nation. What they don’t know is that in today’s age where Internet information updates in seconds and innovation is everywhere at all times, everything is possible. Do you think you can stay out of it, hide it, and keep it to yourself? Maybe you think it is a treasure today, but it may become worthless tomorrow.

1. Bias against sharing. People who hold this view believe that sharing is a waste of energy and time. Instead of sharing with others, it is better to save time and energy and focus on doing what you want to do. Besides, sharing may not necessarily bring you real benefits. What I want to say is, it’s a different era now, uncle, and you’re still working on things behind closed doors.

   It is the incorrect thoughts such as lack of confidence in ourselves, fear of being surpassed, and prejudice against sharing that are at work. It is precisely because we are bound by the constraints of traditional thinking such as "hanging the head on the beam and piercing the thigh with a needle" and "a scholar knows everything about the world without leaving home" that have imprisoned our thoughts, hindered our communication, and missed our growth opportunities. We have to move forward alone and grope our way forward among the vast sea of ​​people. Even if we finally reach the other side of success, we have also made extraordinary efforts and gone through a bumpy journey.

   In real life, there are many people who want to share, but not necessarily many who actually share. To do anything well, you need to pay attention to methods and strategies, and sharing is no exception. The author analyzes many phenomena and lists the following "4 prescriptions":

   1True sharing is not "unrequited love", you need to find the right person! Many friends have reported that they are very enthusiastic about sharing and cannot suppress the desire to share. They want to tell everyone they meet and they treat everyone equally, regardless of their status. This is sharing, but why is the final result, that the gains are not obvious? The reason is that we haven’t found the right person to share with. Sharing is like falling in love or dating, it takes two people to be attracted to each other. It's like you, a person born in the 50s or 60s, are talking to a group of people born in the 90s and 00s about educated youth going to the countryside and the people's communes. The other party will definitely be confused and bewildered, and won't know what you are saying, because you two are not on the same channel at all, and there is such a bottomless generation gap between you. Therefore, before sharing, you might as well calmly analyze and think about what you are sharing and which field it belongs to? What kind of people and age group is it suitable for? After identifying the target objects and audiences, targeted sharing will definitely resonate and bring a lot of benefits.

   2. Real sharing is not “output-oriented”, it requires two-way interaction! Sharing is not a one-way movement where you speak and I listen, or just output. Instead, it is a two-way communication and interactive process. During the sharing process, the person being shared with will also express their views and make suggestions, which in turn will promote and influence the sharing of the sharer. In this sense, the person who shares is both an "exporter" and an "inputter" at the same time. What he outputs and shares is his own views and opinions, and what he gains is the insights of those who share with him. It seems that he is "giving up" but in fact he is "gaining". Through mutual learning, they achieve common progress, common growth and common improvement.