How to educate a rebellious child

The first thing we need to understand is that children have a rebellious period, which is a period that every child has to go through. As a parent, you must not regard your child’s rebelliousness as unreasonable. How to provide good guidance is something that parents need to pay attention to. This requires certain skills. On the one hand, you must fully understand the child, as the child always thinks that he or she has grown up. On the other hand, you should adopt good educational methods to avoid problems in the child’s psychological development.

How to educate a rebellious child

1. Children who are under emotional stress are more likely to rebel. When children are tired and hungry, they should be allowed to rest or eat some of their favorite snacks to help relieve tension, rather than teaching them to learn new things or do things.

Changes in the surrounding environment will also make children nervous and increase their rebellious psychology. For example, when children are sick, they are usually in a low mood and tend to go against their parents. At this time, parents should understand their children and be more tolerant of them when they are sick.

2. Protect children's safety. Children do not have a strong sense of danger, so they will do things that may have dangerous consequences. Once discovered, parents should stop them immediately, and then you should communicate well with your child and let him understand the consequences of his behavior. For example, a child may be running happily on the street but may be hit by a car. You should tell him: "Mom can't let you run on the street because there are a lot of cars here. If you get hit by a car, you will get hurt and it will hurt a lot."

3. Let children learn to cooperate with others. Tell them by giving examples that asking and commanding have completely different effects, such as "Give me the book, please?" and "Give me the book!". Also, tell your children what to do rather than what not to do. For example, if you want your child to be more careful, you can say, "Pick up that cup gently," instead of saying, "Don't break the cup!"

4. Parents’ requests should be reasonable. For a child, it is easier to let him exchange toys with other children than to let him give his toys to other children for free. Let your child express his or her requests verbally, but do not indulge his or her bad habits. If you encounter a child making a fuss and asking for cake in a supermarket, don't let him succeed because of the eyes of people around him. You can take him out and tell him in calm words: "Because you behaved so poorly, Mom can't buy you cake. If you want to eat cake, you should tell Mom." Gradually, the child will learn to express his thoughts in words.

5. Be a good role model for your children. Parents’ behavior will directly affect their children’s thoughts and behaviors. Therefore, parents should control their own behavior and not let resistance control themselves, especially in front of their children.

The harmful effects of children's rebellion

Rebellion is a feeling of "growing up", a strong desire for self-expression, and in terms of thinking form, it belongs to "divergent thinking". It is an expression of being different and hoping to attract other people's attention. If parents do not handle their children's rebellious period properly, it may cause the following adverse effects:

1. Increased rebellious psychology

During the rebellious period, if parents simply suppress their children or try to force them to obey through their superior "authority", then in all likelihood, the children's rebellious psychology will be further strengthened.

2. Influence on children’s personality

If parents always scold and beat their children, it will lead to bad consequences: they will become submissive and cowardly, or they will become stubborn and willful, and act recklessly.