How to adjust your mentality after a breakup

A broken heart is a process that many people must go through in their lives. It can have a great impact on people's physical, mental and other aspects, and even cause illness. Therefore, it is particularly important to learn to scientifically adjust the psychology after a broken heart. It can be adjusted through reasonable venting, reverse thinking, admitting mistakes, eliminating misunderstandings and discarding inferiority. Friends in need can learn more about the relevant knowledge.

1. Reasonable venting

The emotional repression caused by a broken heart is very serious. If it is not vented promptly and reasonably, various maladaptive symptoms will appear. The following are some of the more effective ways to vent:

(1) You can cry behind closed doors.

(2) Confide your inner distress and sadness to close friends or family members.

(3) Express your feelings through nature and express your repressed emotions. After a breakup, you can go on a long trip with friends to experience the wonder and greatness of nature and the beautiful gifts of life. You will feel that the pain of your broken heart is just a drop in the ocean. Your mind will become open and your depressed mood will be relieved.

(4) Sublimation is the most ideal way to vent the psychological energy after a breakup. Those who have been heartbroken should use their reason and invest their emotions and energy into a career that can fully realize their own value and their love of life. In this way, the frustration caused by the breakup can be compensated in a higher state of sublimation and they can gain greater and more benefits.

2. Think in reverse.

In order for a relationship to be successful, in addition to socially recognized qualities and concepts, there are many special psychological requirements, such as: harmonious personalities, similar interests, consistent values, matching physical characteristics, etc. If the relationship cannot continue because of conflicts in these areas, there is no need to be too sad. It’s better to think about it the other way around. If you keep getting along and it leads to emotional discord in the future, how can there be happiness in love? A broken heart is certainly not a blessing, but if you don’t have similar interests and personalities, breaking up early is not a bad thing either. “A blessing in disguise.”

3. If you make a mistake out of anger or an argument, you must admit your mistake promptly.

If the breakup is caused by a quarrel or an extreme anger between lovers, you should get rid of the concept of "face" afterwards, take the initiative to approach the other party and have the courage to admit your mistakes. Not only will the other party not look down on you because of this, but will also see your sincerity and generosity and take corresponding actions. This way the contradiction will be resolved.

4. If the breakup is caused by misunderstanding, you should actively eliminate the misunderstanding.

If the other party has misunderstood you, don't be impatient. Wait until you calm down a little, and then explain the whole truth to them by yourself or seek help from the other party's trusted relatives and friends. If you have misunderstood the other person, you should listen to their explanation calmly and patiently, and apologize to them after the truth comes out. And in the future, we should be good at handling problems calmly so as not to cause new misunderstandings.

5. Get rid of inferiority complex

There is nothing to be ashamed of in a broken heart. However, some people who have been heartbroken think that it is shameful, that they have been "tricked" or "played" by the other party, and thus feel ashamed and embarrassed, develop a strong sense of inferiority, and even live in seclusion. In fact, the development of any matter faces two future prospects, and the same is true for love.

A successful love relationship is certainly gratifying, but this is only a possibility, not a certainty. Therefore, when you fall in love, you must be mentally prepared for the possibility that it will not work. It is reasonable and beyond reproach to break up. Young people with ideas and ambitions should not be bound by worldly prejudices and should not look down on themselves. If you can discover your own shortcomings from a broken heart and make progress, then you will benefit greatly from it and won't have to worry about not finding a satisfying partner in the future.