What should we do when facing setbacks

Everyone's growth process is not smooth sailing throughout life, but people will gradually learn to grow after experiencing setbacks. However, many people are unwilling to face setbacks because setbacks can easily erode a person's self-confidence and perseverance. Therefore, most people will choose to give up when faced with setbacks, which leads to failure. So what should we do when we face setbacks?

In life, it is impossible to have everything go smoothly. Being able to be humble, wise and foolish in the face of setbacks, and maintaining a calm and peaceful state of mind is the magnanimity to fully understand life. If a person wants to maintain a healthy state of mind, he needs to sublimate his spirit, cultivate morality, accumulate energy, and be humorous and optimistic.

As Marx said, "A good mood can relieve physical fatigue and pain better than ten good medicines." When people encounter setbacks, they often feel a lack of security, which makes it difficult for them to calm down, and their work and life will be affected.

So, how should people adjust when they suffer setbacks? Here are ten methods to try:

First, stay calm and don’t panic or get angry.

Second, enhance self-confidence and increase courage.

Third, assess the situation and win by taking a roundabout approach. The so-called roundabout way to win means that the goal remains unchanged but the method changes.

Fourth, keep up the good work and persevere. When you encounter setbacks, keep moving forward. Your established goal remains unchanged, just double the effort.

Fifth, be flexible and maneuverable in grafting. If the original goal is too high and cannot be achieved for the time being, it can be replaced by a goal that is easier to achieve. This is also a way of adaptation.

Sixth, find the cause and clarify your thoughts. When you are frustrated, first calm down and find out the possible reasons, and then seek solutions to the problem.

Seventh, transfer emotions and seek sublimation. You can adjust your emotions and sublimate your feelings through your favorite stamp collecting, writing, calligraphy, art, music, dance, physical exercise and other methods.

Eighth, learn to vent and get rid of stress. Different people have different attitudes towards setbacks. Some people are melancholy, some are hesitant. At this time, you might as well find one or two close people who understand you and pour out everything in your heart. From the perspective of mental health, catharsis can eliminate the mental stress caused by frustration and reduce mental fatigue; at the same time, catharsis is also a self-psychological rescue measure, which can dilute and alleviate negative emotions.

Ninth, seek psychological counseling when necessary. When people encounter setbacks and feel overwhelmed, they may seek help from psychological counseling agencies. The psychologist will appeal to your emotions, explain the reason to you, guide you with actions, and lead you step by step, so that you can move from the predicament of "there seems to be no way out" to the state of "a new village is revealed after the dark clouds and green flowers".

Tenth, learn to be humorous and make fun of yourself. "Humor" and "self-deprecation" are good ways to vent depression, balance your mentality, and create happiness.

When you encounter setbacks, you might as well use Ah Q's method of spiritual victory, such as "suffering a loss is a blessing", "losing money to avoid disaster", "there are gains and losses", etc. to adjust your unbalanced psychology. Or "It's rare to be confused", look at setbacks calmly, and adjust your mindset with humor