What to do if you have an affair?

Nowadays, the pace of social development is very fast, people's hearts are becoming more and more impetuous, and there are many temptations in society. In such an environment, if one of the spouses has an affair, it has become a very serious problem. When everyone finds out that their partner is having an affair, they will feel angry and ashamed. Many people have very poor self-control and will do extreme things at this time. So, if you find that the other half is having an affair, what is the correct and rational solution?

What to do if you have an affair?

This problem has been bothering many women. According to experience, there are three reasons that lead to infidelity:

1. Wrong concept. In modern society, some people's ideas are still stuck in the feudal society. They believe that "three wives and four concubines" or "a red flag flying at home and a colorful flag flying outside" is the honor of being a man. People who hold such ideas will definitely have an affair once they get the chance.

Now, most advanced countries and regions practice monogamy, which is the product of thousands of years of development of human society and is also the most suitable system for human marriage. Therefore, the error of the above idea is beyond doubt. These ideas are inconsistent with the basic principle of mutual loyalty between husband and wife.

2. Irresponsible. People who lack a sense of family responsibility are more likely to cheat if they encounter external temptations.

3. Normal needs are not met. If a man's normal emotional and physical needs cannot be met by his spouse, it can easily lead to extramarital affairs. Please note the word "normal".

Please note that there can be more than one reason for an affair, and you should judge the reason for your husband's affair based on your actual situation.

Whose fault is it that my husband has an affair?

After figuring out the reasons why your husband has an affair, you can analyze this problem. The responsibility for an affair should be determined based on the different reasons mentioned above.

If it is the first two reasons (wrong concept, irresponsibility), the man must bear full responsibility.

If it is the third reason (normal needs are not met), both parties are responsible. But the man still has to bear the main responsibility for the affair because his response method is wrong. Problems between couples should be resolved through communication, rather than making bigger mistakes because of the other party's fault.

Solutions to infidelity

After analyzing the causes and responsibilities of the affair, you can find corresponding solutions in a targeted manner.

First of all, the woman should think calmly and ask herself whether she can forgive the man. If she cannot forgive him, she can choose to divorce. After all, having an affair is a matter of principle, and the woman has the right to choose divorce.

If the responsibility lies entirely with the man, and the woman is willing to forgive him, it depends on the man's attitude and whether he can sincerely repent.

If the man is willing to repent, the woman can give him a chance to let him immediately and completely break up with the third party. Then see his subsequent performance. If the man does not repent, the woman should decisively choose to divorce.

If both parties are responsible and the woman is willing to forgive the man, she should first reflect on herself and think about how she should improve. Then she should have a good talk with the man, admit her previous shortcomings to him, and express her willingness to improve. Then ask the man whether he is willing to repent. If he is willing to repent, let him immediately break up with the third party. In the future, both sides should learn lessons, put aside the past and start over. If the man does not repent, the woman should decisively choose to divorce.

Extramarital affair is a matter of principle and should not be tolerated. If the man does not repent, the woman will continue to be hurt. Marriage is a matter between two people and cannot be maintained by the woman alone. Irresponsible men are not worth loving, and blind love will only bring harm to yourself.