How to improve low emotional intelligence

If your emotional intelligence is too low, it is easy to have some problems in your life and work. First of all, your colleagues and friends may not think highly of you. Secondly, you are likely to encounter too many setbacks in your work and life. For people with low emotional intelligence, certain methods should be adopted to improve their emotional intelligence. From some specific details, some training methods can be used. Let us learn how to improve low emotional intelligence.

1. Change all the “wrong” you said into “right”.

I have a friend who likes to say “no” the most. No matter what others say, he will first say “no”, “that’s not right”, or “that’s not the case”, but his subsequent words are not to refute others, but just to supplement. He's just used to saying "no" and everyone hates him. Who likes to be denied? I once interviewed a professor who was extremely knowledgeable, and I found that he had a wonderful little habit. No matter how stupid the other person said, he would always say "yes" very sincerely, and seriously point out the points where your words were valid, and then expand on them and express his opinion. You must be flattered that he, such an awesome person, affirms a fool like you. And he elevates your opinion to such an awesome level that you find yourself and him both so awesome. From then on, I learned this: affirm the other person first, and then express my own opinions, and the communication atmosphere will be much better.

2. When saying "thank you", you can add "you" or the other person's name.

What is the difference between "thank you" and "thank you"? "Thank you" is a general term, while "thank you" is specific and more heartfelt. To a stranger, you say "thank you", but to someone you know, it would be much friendlier if you add their name. a lot of. a lot of.

3. When asking someone for help, add "OK" at the end of the sentence.

Never speak in a commanding tone. Adding the words "okay" will change the tone to one of negotiation, and the other party will feel more respected. A friend of mine is the president of a listed company. Every time he asks me to do something, he will add "Is it okay?", "Is it convenient for you?", "Okay?" - especially when dealing with people who are lower than you in the secular sense, using a negotiating tone will make you appear more educated.

Kevin Tsai once said that when chatting, everyone is the "I". Everyone just wants to talk about themselves. You talk about your own experience or your opinion on something, and then add "what about you" or "what do you think", throwing the topic to the other person and giving them space and power to express themselves, you will become much more lovable.

5. Using "we" and "us" more often can quickly build closer relationships.

For example, when making an appointment to meet someone you just met, instead of asking “Where shall we meet tomorrow”, you can change it to “Where shall we meet tomorrow”. It’s just a small change, but it makes the question seem more friendly, right?

6. When praising others, don’t be too vague, but praise the details specifically.

"You are so beautiful", "You are so smart", "You are so awesome" are common compliments. A more advanced compliment is to find out how beautiful, smart, and awesome the other person is. For example, I know a girl who has a great figure, and she is tired of hearing others compliment her on her figure. But someone complimented her, "Chinese girls' waist-to-hip ratio is not very good, but you are an exception." She was most impressed and then she married the person. People often praise me, saying, "You are a love saint, your chatting skills are great." To be honest, I would take it as a compliment. However, if the other person says that one of my articles is particularly well written or that he or she likes a certain paragraph very much, I would be very touched, because it turns out that he or she really likes my writing.