What should I do if my child has poor self-awareness?

Most of the parents of modern children are busy with work and usually have no time to discipline their children. Many grandparents just spoil their children, or some parents start to take care of everything for their children from the moment they are born and cannot let go. They want to take care of all the difficulties in their children's growth. As a result, many children have poor self-awareness, and children have not developed independent character since childhood. What should we do if children have poor self-awareness?

What should parents do if their children have poor self-awareness? Suggestion 1: Parents should learn to “let go” and give their children full trust. Believe that children can do some things by themselves. Don’t do everything for them. Let them do some things at home that they can do. Sometimes, we should ask children to bear the natural consequences caused by their unconsciousness within a controllable range, so that the next time they are unconscious, they will consider the consequences and be careful about their behavior. If we arrange everything for our children early on in the process of educating them, then the children will never grow up and will never experience the joy that self-awareness brings them.

How to cultivate children's self-awareness? 1. Let children develop the habit of reading. Reading is the soil where all homework is rooted. The famous educator Sukhomlinsky said: "The way to make children smarter is not to make up lessons or homework, but to read, read, and read again. Lead your children into the door of reading. Some parents may say: There are so many homeworks to be completed, where is the time to read? In fact, as long as you are willing to squeeze out time to read, you don’t have to worry about not having time. No matter how busy you are, 10 minutes of extracurricular reading before going to bed every day will add up to a lot. Reading can not only broaden our horizons, increase our knowledge, and cultivate good self-study and reading abilities, but also further consolidate the various knowledge learned in class, improve our reading level and writing ability, and even be of great help to the study of various subjects.

2. Let children develop the good habit of reviewing in time. Listening carefully in class means turning knowledge from instantaneous memory into short-term memory, and timely review can turn knowledge from short-term memory into long-term memory. For many texts to be memorized, children can be asked to recite them repeatedly every day, with more feedback in small cycles. After finishing a unit of knowledge, they can review the knowledge with more feedback, and after one month of study, they can review the knowledge with more feedback. 3. Let your child develop the habit of previewing in advance. Through pre-study, not only can the child's learning gap be shortened, making him more confident and courageous in class, but he can also taste the sweetness of learning, allowing the child to find a learning path on his own and accumulate some self-study methods. 4. To improve the effectiveness of children's learning, children are required to complete their homework within the specified time. The amount of homework is the same for every student. Sometimes it is not necessarily that the teacher assigns a lot of homework. Some children are time-efficient and finish their homework quickly. This way, they can leave more time to preview and fill in the gaps in knowledge. Some are very inefficient and have to study until very late. Not to mention previewing and reviewing, they cannot even finish their homework. They have developed a bad habit of procrastinating. In the initial stage, I hope that families and parents can study with their children, not only to supervise the children's learning to a certain extent, but also to help children develop a sense of time. During the children's study time, try not to disturb the children, improve their learning efficiency, and strictly require them to complete their homework in one go.

5. Let the child put things back in their place voluntarily. Make requirements according to the child's personality and let the child develop the correct habit of putting toys back in their place after playing with them. You also need to practice being responsible after going out. If you go to a place such as a parent-child center or parent-child restaurant where toys are provided, you must require your child to put the toys back in place after playing. It may not work once or twice, but you can practice up to ten times until they learn to put the toys back in place automatically and develop a sense of responsibility. Some mothers say that their children are very good at playing tricks and they just won’t put the toys away when you ask them to. What should they do? In fact, it is very simple. If the child is playing tricks, the mother can also play tricks too. If the child does not do what he should do, time will stay at the present moment until the child is willing to do it. (Children in every family have different personalities. Mothers can adjust the degree according to their own children’s conditions. The key is to let the children complete it by themselves.)