What to do if you have pre-marital phobia

Although society is becoming more and more open, marriage is still the most important ceremony for two parties to form a family. Many newlyweds will experience some negative emotions such as anxiety and fear in the early stages of their marriage. This is most likely due to pre-marital phobia. Pre-marital phobia not only affects the state of the newlyweds, but in severe cases it can also affect their physical health. So, what should you do if you suffer from pre-marital phobia?

Causes

1. This fear comes from the negative "propaganda" of social opinion on marriage life, and some media's excessive analysis of various marriage problems "exposing" the dark side of marriage, which makes people who "intention to get married" feel an invisible pressure, resulting in excessive worry about the "direction" of married life and fear of marriage failure; another reason is that one party is not very satisfied with some aspect of the other party, or has doubts about whether certain shortcomings of the other party can be changed after getting married and whether they can adapt.

2. Premarital discomfort symptoms first appear during the marriage discussion stage, mainly due to doubts and fears about the durability of marriage. The second stage is the symptoms of fear, tension, anxiety, etc. that appear one month or week before the wedding. Unlike the first stage, the reason for the "fear of marriage" at this time is the "expansion" of the difficulties of married life.

Worried about not knowing your partner well enough

Many people will find that they don’t know their significant other very well when they get married, and they will have pre-marital fears. The best way to prevent this phenomenon is to have enough time to get to know each other and deepen the feelings between each other before getting married.

Fear of not being free after marriage

Before getting married, you were single for twenty or thirty years. Single days are free, but if you are ready to get married, then please be prepared to change yourself. Marriage means taking responsibility, which you must face. Escaping will only make things worse.

Worried about being in trouble after marriage

This reason often occurs in girls. Many girls feel that a boy’s attitude will change dramatically after marriage. This is often a manifestation of lack of confidence in love. If you can’t trust your significant other, why should you marry him? So give the other party enough trust.

Worrying about the trivialities of married life

After marriage, the trivial matters at home are very headaches. You have to worry about the daily necessities of life. But you have to think from another perspective. Life is simple, it is just about the daily necessities of life. The ordinariness is the way to test love.

Worried about not being able to handle the relationship with the parents-in-law

After marriage, two families become one family. Many girls are afraid of not being able to handle the relationship with their parents-in-law. Indeed, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to be a dead knot since ancient times. But please don’t worry, if you are a smart woman, you will be able to handle the relationship with your mother-in-law well.

Fear of affecting my work

Many people pay more attention to their work and are afraid that marriage will affect their work, especially women who face the issue of getting married and having children. This is a completely unnecessary worry. If you are capable enough, you can definitely balance family and career.