What are the symptoms of emotional dependence?

Emotional dependence is a mental illness, which is mainly caused by pinning one's emotions on emotions or objects. Once they are lost, it will be difficult to adapt to life. The more obvious symptoms of emotional dependence are the firm belief that one's feelings towards a certain person or object will not change and cannot be replaced by anyone else, and the constant thinking about the object or person on which one is emotionally dependent.

Symptoms

You like someone too much or place too much personal emotion on a person or an object, and find it difficult to adapt once you lose it.

Case: 29-year-old Yi Tian has been married for more than three years, but she still depends on her husband like a child. Now, whenever he is away on business for more than a week, she will become unhappy or even lose her temper, and feel that life is meaningless. Not only is this true in life, she also has no enthusiasm for work. My husband gets particularly worried every time he goes on a business trip. Because apart from chatting with good friends, she only goes shopping alone. During this period of time, she feels empty inside, as if something is missing. She is in a bad mood and feels that the days are particularly long. She doesn't know what she can do or what she can do to make herself happy.

Diagnosis: When a person is depressed and cannot find a solution, dependency disorder often takes advantage of the situation. The scope of emotional dependency disorder is very broad. It is not only manifested in dependence on a certain person or animal, but sometimes it also manifests as dependence on a favorite object.

Prescription: If you want to get rid of emotional dependence, you can seek help from your friends. If you have a friend with whom you can talk about everything, the problems that bother you can be easily solved. On the other hand, you must learn to make reasonable plans and arrangements for your life. In addition, you also need to cultivate your ability to endure loneliness, learn to enjoy your time alone, not rely too much on someone or something, and understand yourself objectively and correctly, which is also a key step in improving dependence.

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How can I know if I have a tendency to be emotionally dependent? Check if I have the following behaviors:

1. Spend at least 30-60 minutes matching clothes before going out every day, and change them several times before going out, otherwise you will feel weird all day;

2. When you are with him/her, you keep talking about your own things, as if you are reporting on your work;

3. Always believe that your love for him/her is irreplaceable;

4. Recently, you hardly hang out with anyone except him/her;

5. I strongly hope that he/she will think of me/her all the time. I even put my phone next to my pillow when I sleep because I am afraid of missing his/her text messages.

6. When faced with a choice, always want to get his (her) advice and assurance first, even if it is just a daily trivial matter;

7. When alone, you are often tormented by the thought of being abandoned and do everything you can to avoid loneliness;

8. Over-tolerance: in order to maintain your relationship, you are willing to do many things against your will;