The misunderstood “manliness”

Today, women widely participate in various social activities, gender equality has become a social consensus, and men in daily life do not have many opportunities to show their so-called "manliness". If it were still in primitive society, men would not hesitate to sacrifice their lives to fight ferocious animals, hunt prey to feed their families and protect their children, and risk their lives to participate in the conquest of enemy tribes.

If it were a war now, a man would go to the battlefield and sacrifice his life for his country in a passionate and heroic manner for the sake of his family and beloved woman. I am not sure whether women would consider these actions as a full expression of masculinity in such a particular social context, but what is certain is that men today have almost no chance to show their masculinity. For a long time, people have been accustomed to the existence of "strong women", which has subconsciously deepened the depression and frustration of many men. Therefore, they can only express such direct masculinity as "strong and powerful" and "rough and unrestrained" in their sexual intercourse.

True masculinity has been misunderstood by men themselves, and there are many examples to prove this. Among the students, there was a couple, about 30 years old. The husband was full of confidence and always believed that he could satisfy his wife. I asked him to caress his wife's G-spot, but he casually inserted two fingers into his wife's vagina. Almost at the moment of insertion, his wife let out a wail of pain. But he had no intention of stopping and continued to twitch his fingers. What might be considered as violent behavior by others became a symbol of manliness in his eyes. What’s even sadder is that this is neither the only nor the extreme example. Men who firmly believe that strength, ruggedness and boldness represent masculinity, if you ask them to caress breasts, they will undoubtedly rub their partner's breasts until they are swollen; if you ask them to penetrate, their behavior will definitely be like the male stars in porn movies, panting heavily and performing continuous piston movements. In real life, this situation also occurs between couples. It is not that they know they are wrong and do not correct their mistakes, but that women also think that this is a concrete manifestation of men's strength. Although their bodies are in pain, they are thinking in their hearts, "My husband has tried so hard, I can't be too picky, otherwise he will be too pitiful." "The discomfort is my problem." In this way, although they have been married for many years, neither of them realizes that the mistakes they make in bed are so simple and obvious.

Gender equality does not mean that there are no gender differences. The slogans of some feminists sound high-sounding, but they do not conform to the actual situation. Affirmation between men and women

There is a difference. The more you understand gender differences and the completely different physiological structures between men and women, the more you will understand that in modern society, only sex can make men more like men and women more like women.

The "Five Elements" concept in Eastern philosophy holds that our world is made up of five basic material forms: gold, wood, water, fire, and earth. I don’t want to get into a philosophical discussion here, but one thing is very clear: in the world of “Five Elements”, men belong to “fire” and women belong to “water”. I don't know whether the ancient sages were aware of the issue of sex when they judged the differences between men and women in this way, but I very much admire their unique and accurate vision in making this division.

When men's sexual nerves are thoroughly aroused, they are like a burning flame. Once they ejaculate, the flame goes out. Women need a certain amount of time to reach the boiling point, but once their desire boils, it takes time to cool down. This fiery and watery quality is exactly the true portrayal of men and women in passionate sex scenes. Nowadays we often hear women complaining after sex. The fundamental reason is that men do not understand the basic properties of fire and water. If you put water in a pot and put it on the stove, even if the flame in the stove is strong, the water in the pot will not boil immediately. Men with the fire element only know their own characteristics. They think that the stronger the fire is, the more masculine they are. They only want a moment of flames, so naturally they cannot arouse a woman's sexual desire.

In fact, the so-called "masculinity", "femininity", etc., vary from person to person, and no one has the right to simply define "masculinity" or "femininity". However, I can tell you the basic rules for enjoying sex. A man should treat his beloved woman like a treasure and learn to appreciate the beautiful posture of a woman when she enjoys sex; a woman should be willing to open her body and soul in front of her beloved man and gently throw herself into the man's arms. The most important thing is that both parties must learn to discover the beauty of each other in this union of infinite tenderness, appreciate each other's masculinity or femininity, make love together, and grow together. Once you understand this and adjust your consciousness accordingly, you will feel unprecedented changes. This is the greatest beauty in the world that cannot be enjoyed by the trash sex that only knows how to satisfy the sexual desires of both parties and only knows how to attack all the way.

If I had to use one word to express the true manliness in sex scenes, it would be - considerate. If you comfort your beloved woman with all your heart, that dried-up female body will surely be revived and emit that unique "feminine" fragrance. When this fragrance completely envelops a man, even a strong and powerful warrior will be tender and caring towards a woman. This is the true masculinity that has been completely forgotten by modern men.

The guy who only knows how to show his masculinity through intense piston movements is the most stupid. Intense thrusting will only make a man ejaculate prematurely without considering the woman's desire. The result of doing this is not only that you will not make women feel that you are manly, but it will also bring shame to men.

※For many men, sexual drive is an essential element of masculinity. In "Heidi's Sex Report: Men's Edition", such answers are everywhere.

"I define masculinity by a woman's orgasm. Please don't get me wrong, this is not a Don Juan-style show of power, but a matter of satisfying your sexual partner. After all, sex is the whole point of a man's relationship with a woman."

"My sexuality, in my opinion, is masculinity. I am attracted to women and women are attracted to me."

"A man is not a complete man unless he can please one or more women, get hard every time, make them dizzy and make them orgasm."

"A big man has to be rough and tough. Otherwise, there is no masculinity. In some places, such as Latin America, people there regard masculinity as a noble quality."

"It's simple. Masculinity is having a big penis, being fashionable like two cocks, showing it off everywhere, and violating women everywhere."

This really proves Adam Deyong's judgment that this kind of behavior not only makes women feel that you are not manly, but also makes all men lose face.