What to do if your junior high school child hates studying

Children's living conditions are better now, and nine-year compulsory education is basically implemented in China. However, many junior high school students do not like to study very much. Once they develop an aversion to studying, it is easy for them to drop out of school. There are great hidden dangers when underage children do not go to school. Parents are also very troubled to see this situation. You can try some methods to solve it. So, what should we do if our junior high school children become tired of studying? Let’s take a look below.

1. Set reasonable learning goals:

Although most children have normal intelligence, their intelligence and abilities vary. Parents should see their children's strengths and accept their children's shortcomings. Goals should be set according to the individual and parents should not compare their children with other children. According to the child's strengths and weaknesses, set a goal that suits him. This goal should be the peach that he can "jump to", not the peach at the top of the tree. If the child's learning motivation has been damaged, the goal should be lowered to let him experience the joy of success.

2. Improves Confidence:

For young children, make learning more interesting and increase their interest in learning through rewards; cooperate with teachers to find the "bright spots" of children in certain aspects. Based on their existing foundation, as long as there is a slight improvement, timely encouragement should be given to improve their self-confidence and stimulate their interest in learning. By improving external motivation, internal motivation can be strengthened;

3. Use your brain scientifically and change your learning methods:

For children who are tired of studying, we encourage them to use their brains scientifically, and give them some time to exercise and engage in activities of interest every day, so as to help them master a learning method that suits them and gain the initiative to study.

4. Improve the ability to cope with setbacks:

Modern society is a fiercely competitive society. It is impossible to have no study pressure and avoid setbacks. What is more important is to teach children the ability to cope with setbacks. For example, if they fail an exam, should they actively look for the reasons or be passive and self-pitying? If they fail to get into the ideal school, should they adapt to the current school and work hard, or give up on themselves and get through the next few years? These can all be corrected through cognitive behavioral therapy.

American psychologist Sorey once said: "One highly motivated review may be equivalent to ten negative repetitions." In either case, we must focus on stimulating motivation to change the aversion to learning and help children grow up healthily.

Generally speaking, there are some specific reasons why children skip school and dislike studying. For example, some children have a poor academic foundation and cannot catch up no matter how hard they study, so they simply don't want to study. For these children with poor academic foundation, they should take "make-up lessons" at school and at home to make up for the gaps as soon as possible. Some children are reprimanded by a teacher and feel resistance to this teacher, which affects their attitude towards the courses taught by this teacher. For these children, you can solve the problem by communicating with the teacher in a heart-to-heart way.