How to deal with mother-in-law interfering in your life

One of the main reasons why most Chinese women are afraid of getting married is the sharp conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem that has existed since ancient times, and even after thousands of years, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still very serious. Especially in modern times, female friends are becoming more and more independent, but many mothers-in-law like to interfere in the lives of couples, leading to more and more conflicts between couples. So what should you do if your mother-in-law interferes in your and your husband’s lives?

In life, there are always some mothers-in-law who like to interfere in the lives of their sons and daughters-in-law, and these mothers-in-law generally think that they are doing it for their own good. What should you do if you encounter similar situations in life? How to deal with mother-in-law interfering in your life?

In family relationships, some mothers-in-law will focus their attention on their daughters-in-law, which is a way for them to show their care for their daughters-in-law. This reminds me that in the old days, when a daughter-in-law entered her husband’s family, she had to learn the family rules first. This also symbolizes that the daughter-in-law has become a member of her husband's family. In the old days, men were the heads of the family, with men taking care of the outside world and women taking care of the inside world. The mother-in-law became the guide for the daughter-in-law into her new home.

She has lived in this family for a long time, and she knows best how to get along well with her only son. The mother-in-law wants to tell all this to her daughter-in-law, but she doesn't really want to bully anyone or put on airs in front of anyone. This also contains the love for the only Son. But now the social and family division of labor between women and men has changed.

The concept that men are the heads of the family has been challenged, so the problems between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law are not role conflicts but cultural conflicts. Sometimes the mother-in-law's "love" does not see the boundaries between each other and mixes her own life with yours. If you worry, everyone will know it, and if you are afraid, everyone will be afraid. At this time, the daughter-in-law should maintain appropriate physical space and psychological distance from the mother-in-law.

The first solution is to lower your expectations of yourself and look at what your expectations are for the role of daughter-in-law. Second, reflect on how you see yourself in the eyes of others. Do you care about other people's evaluations? Third, you need to sort out your mother-daughter relationship. Another key point is the man. A man who likes to be fought over by two women will unconsciously expand the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law so that he can become the arbitrator.

Living under the same roof for a long time, even close mother and daughter will inevitably have various verbal disputes, not to mention the most difficult relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in Chinese tradition. Of course, we cannot deny that there are generous mothers-in-law and sensible daughters-in-law in this world, and even if conflicts arise, there will not be any grudges. However, most of the time, being magnanimous and understanding cannot resolve all conflicts. After a quarrel, they will separate. This is the most normal thing between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The mother-in-law loves her son so much that it is inevitable that the daughter-in-law feels left out because she cares for her son too much. She feels like an outsider while her husband is her closest to her. The mother-in-law is old and it is inevitable that she nags. Sometimes she will repeat a trivial matter that is not worth mentioning several times, which makes the daughter-in-law feel bored. When this boredom is manifested, the mother-in-law will feel aggrieved that her kindness has ended up in such a way.